Can we talk? (remember how Joan Rivers {RIP – I miss her sarcastic humor} always started a part of her comedy routine with that line?) I confess, I rarely share personal stuff here, especially personal stuff that isn’t happy news….this has been because I believe Garden, Home and Party, and blog friendships I’ve developed, is more about the fun stuff in life. I am an optimist junkie.
But we all know life is a roller coaster of good and not so good events. About the time you’re riding high, something happens and you’re knocked down, at least for a little while, then you head back up. I believe this makes us grateful for the really good times.
A little over a year ago my husband was diagnosed with cancer. I confess it was a blow since he hadn’t seemed ill. We dealt with it and took the treatments the doctor recommended and after one step forward, two steps back, we finally got some really great news on Monday, (President’s Day, my new favorite holiday! ) 🙂 Mr. B. is cancer free. We will still have follow up with the doctor, but it was great news to us and our family.
Through it all, when things would get very stressful and I’d be overwhelmed with worry, I found that losing myself in beauty, garden or home, was my emotional duct tape. It helped me put some perspective on the situation at hand, and feel revived. I realize we all have our way(s) of dealing with stress, but it was interesting to me to discover this diversion truly helped me deal with it all.
Here are a few of the images that made me see that the sun, would indeed, come out tomorrow!
{Dan Marty – RIP}
{Jane Moore}
{Lisa Luby Ryan}
{Ralph Lauren}
Thanks for stopping by, you are all a constant source of joy.
♥ Karen
laney said:
…I too have loved many of these same images…and have too been overjoyed to hear those beautiful words “cancer free” concerning someone…several someones…I love…so happy for you and your husband…God gave us beauty,,,visual and verbal…to carry us through the not so lovely times in life…thank you for sharing your heart…I know you helped someone today…and that is very beautiful….blessings laney
Karen B. said:
Laney, Thank you so much for your kind words. We are all on a journey, sometimes sharing makes things easier somehow. 🙂 xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 4:04 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Kelly - Talk of the House said:
Oh Karen…so glad you and your family have received good news. I had no idea. Yes, you most definitely need a diversion when life throws things in your path. And like Laney said God does give us beauty to help carry us through. I think it is wonderful that you can find happiiness in the beauty instead of dwelling on worrying. Here’s to beautiful happy healthy days ahead. 🙂
Karen B. said:
Kelly, Thank you. I count you a *{blog} *friend! xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 4:15 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Phyllis Higgerson, Henhurst Interiors said:
Dear Karen, I am so sorry to hear you have had such worries at home and I am happy for your good news. And these photos do provide some wonderful escapism!
xo,
Phyllis
Karen B. said:
Phyllis, Thank you, it is a beautiful world out there, we just have to look in the right places to help ourselves to the view. 🙂 xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 4:35 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Laura Roe said:
What wonderful news! I have just found you and it was because I was looking for a beautiful diversion. Your choices in photos seem to sooth my soul. Attitude is a choice….especially when dealing with difficult circumstances. I know you and your husband are thrilled. Blessings to you and wishes for continued good health!😊 Laura Roe
Karen B. said:
Laura,
Thank you so much for stopping by—as a new guest, I’m happy my news didn’t scare you away. 🙂
I appreciate your sweet words. So happy to meet you!
Karen
Nella said:
Dear Karen, It’s interesting how beauty in our world, eases pain and unhappiness…I think it is everywhere, if we look carefully….I try to focus on the beauty around us every day…for me it is my garden….over the years it has saved me many times…I am so happy to hear your good news! N.xo
Karen B. said:
Nella, I too gain such peace from my garden. It’s my weekend therapist! 🙂 Thank you for your visits and kind words. xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 5:16 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Jayne on Weed Street said:
I am so happy for you and your husband. So many people have been afflicted with that diagnosis of cancer, and your way of dealing with it may help others. You found a source of serenity and a way to put order in your world with beauty. I am sure that could help others. Blessings have come to you both, and now that the hard stuff is behind you, I hope you continue to share your beautiful thoughts and light with an even greater zeal for life!
Karen B. said:
Jayne, Going through these turns in the road and coming out on the other side does help one realize all of the joys of daily life. Thank you for your visits, I always enjoy not only your comments but your wonderful posts. xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 5:18 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Victoria • Restoring our Victorian said:
Hugs! There is truly NOTHING like a loved one being ill to make everything seem so fragile and fleeting. So, so, so glad Mr. B has received a clean bill of health.
PS – I love the phrase “emotional duct tape.”
Karen B. said:
Thanks for your good wishes. You were the only blog friend I had shared that with during the ordeal. I’ve discovered I’m not very good at stress. Odd since I have plenty of practice. xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 6:03 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Chronica Domus said:
“Emotional duct tape”, what a great way to put it. I’m overjoyed to read that your husband is in the clear (phew!), and you are so very right when you say that beautiful things got you through the very stressful experience of the waiting game. There’s nothing that beauty cannot set right as you’ve discovered. Thanks for sharing all of the beauty in these images today.
Karen B. said:
CD, Thank you. It shouldn’t have surprised me that gardening and perusing the various resources for beauty in the world brought me so much joy. xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 10:08 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Vicki said:
I’m so happy for your news. Those beautiful images are comforting. It’s wonderful that they helped you find strength and solace when you needed it. Here’s to more joy and sunny days for you, friend!
Karen B. said:
Thanks, Vicki. It’s certainly been a roller coaster year, I’m happy to be stepping off that ride, at least for now. xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 12:54 PM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Linda Coble said:
Karen,
Having followed you on the roller coaster of the past year, I couldn’t be happier for the cancer free diagnosis. You’re so right about how the tough times make us the appreciate the good times even more. Here’s to more good times!
Karen B. said:
Linda, Hooray, starting with this coming Friday! xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 1:39 PM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Gretchen said:
Karen, we both believe in the power of positive thought. The inner strength and optimism you showed during this whole ordeal has been an example to all of us. I know you were frustrated at times (and rightfully so!) as well as scared and anxious but to all of us who know you well, you remained hopeful and cheerful. I can only imagine how much this helped Mr. B. We are all SO happy to hear that he is cancer free!
Karen B. said:
Gretchen, Thank you! It is in part thanks to the counsel and support of good friends like you that I was able to keep smiling through this rocky adventure. I kept thinking of the cliche, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. 🙂 xo, Karen
On Wed, Feb 25, 2015 at 3:16 PM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Leslie Harris aka Gwen Moss said:
Karen I had no idea. What a wonderful relief to hear the news about your husband’s health. You must have been going through so much these last months. But I can relate to your feelings about beauty and home; our artistic energies can offer such comforting escape from real life. It’s a way to feed one’s soul and I’m so happy to hear that it helped you through some of those tougher days.
I share your family’s joy.
xo
D'Arcy H said:
Karen, what wonderful news! It’s so hard to feel any energy when one’s worried and preoccupied. Now spring will be an extra-special gift to enjoy with a lighter heart. I wish you and Mr. B all the best! –D’Arcy
Karen B. said:
Thanks so much D’arcy. Spring will be extra special this year. It takes the contrast of good times and not so good to highlight the joys in life, right? xo, Karen
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beggingforattention said:
oh dearest. sending you all hugs. what great news!! you are a very strong woman to have carried on in the face of such devastation and stress. beauty in all it’s forms can take us away and these beautiful images can create a balm for the soul.
i am a pinterest maniac, it is a stress reducer, something i too recently discovered.
did dan marty die? did not know, i adored his aesthetic
much love
debra
Karen B. said:
My sweet, supportive friend, we are so relieved. Mr. B. is back to the gym and a happy camper.
Yes, I blogged last fall about Dan Marty and his niece emailed me to let me know he had been battling cancer and had passed in mid-September.
Are you at the conference in Atlanta? xo, Karen
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The Lady's Life said:
Karen, Such beautiful pictures, and you always have such thoughtful words in your posts and comments. I am so happy for you that you’ve received this wonderful news. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about what relief and joy you must feel. Golly. Life can be so. darn. hard. You are such a sweet and bright soul to seek beauty to give you peace and help you through. I like to work on puzzles during the winter, and usually have one laid out on the dining room table. I’ve been working on one filled with the most beautiful hummingbirds, and it is crazy difficult, but I noticed what a saving grace it was lately when I’ve had some stress. Like you, I’m very visual and it takes my mind away from what I’m thinking about, and just lets me focus on finding the right shapes and colors. What’s funny is that whenever someone comes over and happens to wander past, they’ll stop and look for a piece, and sometimes even just sit right down and start working on it. Thank you for sharing your good news, and a little beauty break with such pretty pictures this morning. xo, N.
Karen B. said:
Nina, Thank you for your kind words. Life can be a challenge, but it seems when all hope is gone, some bright sunshine soldiers in. This bit of “sunshine” will hold us for awhile. 🙂 My mom almost always had a jigsaw puzzle going and I haven’t done one in years but I recall they were a very pleasant diversion, and can be beautiful. I must look for one to embark on…what a wonderfully relaxing idea. Maybe a British garden scene or something like that. Enjoy your weekend. I’m so happy you’ve found time to post for us lately…I’m always inspired by your words and ideas. xo, Karen
On Thu, Feb 26, 2015 at 8:07 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Dawn said:
Oh, Karen! I am sharing your joy! It’s so wonderful to hear that your husband is in good health. You found such a nice distraction by sharing lovely images and beautiful words with all of us. I’m sure that today, someone will be comforted and encouraged just by reading your story! Heartfelt thanks for all of the gifts you share!
♡
Karen B. said:
Dawn, Thank you so much. I’ve been touched by all of my dear blog friend’s responses and kind words. It warms my heart. We are so relieved and looking forward to a sunny future, hopefully for many years to come. 🙂 Enjoy your weekend, my friend. I hope you’re beginning to warm a bit. Karen
On Thu, Feb 26, 2015 at 1:56 PM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Linda Wilson said:
Wonderful news to hear about Mr. B. We are over joyed ….. Spring has truly bowed it’s beautiful head! Linda
Karen B. said:
Sweet Linda! Thank you for your sincere concern throughout this roller coaster ride. I treasure your friendship. xo, Karen
On Fri, Feb 27, 2015 at 8:22 AM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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kristywharvey said:
Oh, Karen… How scary. But how wonderful that he is cancer free! You two must be celebrating every day! Much love to you and Mr. B. xo Kristy
Karen B. said:
Thank you Kristy. We’re all good and looking forward to growing old(er) together. Hahaha.
xo, Karen
On Sat, Feb 28, 2015 at 12:56 PM, Garden, Home & Party wrote:
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Taylor Greenwalt said:
I’m so glad he is ok and cancer free….how scary…
Karen B. said:
Thanks, Julie. It certainly helps prioritize what really matters in life to experience a health worry. xo, Karen
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HollyM said:
I just discovered this blog and I love your content. Blessings to you and your husband; what wonderful news for your family.
Karen B. said:
Welcome, Holly! Thank you for your sweet blessings. We feel very fortunate.
It’s so nice to meet you.
Karen
Ok-Pharmacy said:
I’m glad for your husband and for you and wish your family good health. The places on these photos are really special. Such places promote positive thoughts and calm. I’d be happy to have a green corner to spend there my quieter moments.
Karen B. said:
Thank you!
Karen